You might like to have a little test. Indeed, I suggest you to have one. Try this, go to a restaurant and start staring at some people for a few minutes. If you’re lucky, you’ll have at least 3 of 5 person noticing you. Why? Once again, it’s the Power of Eyes. But what if you failed? try it again in a police station, you’ll get lucky for sure

Well, this is just a little demonstration of using the power of our eyes. And there are other things I’ve learned through live experience. Right now I would like to share one of them:

More Eye Contact for More Chance of Good Relationship

We should make eye contacts as often as possible to as many people around us. There are 2 advantages we would receive at the same time, we’ll have better awareness to people around us, and so will they to us. How’s that? Because we’re used to focus visually. When we want to have more focus on something, we would have a deeper look on it. And what do we do if we want to focus on something unseen? We’ll close our eyes. I believe that eyes have great role on our focus. That’s just basic instinct

By having more awareness of others, we’ll learn more things about them. We might even notice new things that we’ve missed all this time. It’s always a good thing to know more about people around us. It’s one of the basic things we need to build a good relationship. And by having more awareness toward us, we’ll have a notice feedback. We would have more and more people noticing our existence. This will open more chance for more relationships.

Have you ever heard the story about Jerry? He had good relationship with most of the office boys in his office. One day, Jerry’s boss needed to decide someone to be promoted as his assistant. He had 3 candidates from his team, and luckily Jerry is one of them. The problem was, he couldn’t decide whom to choose, yet. For the boss, all the 3 candidates were fully qualified. But suddenly, in a light chit chat with Rick, one of the office boy, the boss learned how Jerry had good influenced on them. Thus, he made up his mind and Jerry was the chosen one.

Jerry might never noticed how Rick had helped him got his promotion. Even Rick might never noticed how he had influenced the Boss. But that won’t change the fact that Rick did have a great role in Jerry’s promotion.

Anyway, eye contact is ONLY an opening step. It could open the chance for more relationships, but building the relationship is another thing. So I guess I’ll share about building the relationship in another post hehehe…

“Goblok! Sampai kapan sih lu mau sok hebat? Seminggu ini lu cuma makan sekali sehari kan? Terserah lu lah!”, sang teman berjalan menjauh menuju keramaian pasar di seberang mereka. Krucuk… krucuk… Beberapa semut yang lewat merasa iba mendengar suara perut si anak. Sementara orang yang berlalu lalang bahkan tidak menyadari kehadirannya.

“Ugh, lapar…”, anak itu meringkuk sudah tidak bisa lagi menahan laparnya. Hari ini kondisinya sudah tidak seperti seminggu sebelumnya. “ibu…”, kata itu yg terakhir terucap sebelum dia pingsan.

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Pasti ini surga, dia terkejut karena tiba-tiba dia sedang duduk di meja makan dengan kehangatan sebuah rumah. Semua terlihat sederhana, tapi kehangatan itu benar-benar membuat dirinya nyaman. Seorang wanita terlihat sedang sibuk menyiapkan hidangan.

“Ibu?”, bibirnya melirih pelan kata yang sangat ia rindukan. Ah, anak itu baru menyadari ada seorang lelaki yang duduk di seberang meja. Matanya menatap dengan hangat. Senyumnya… duh, tidak jelas, wajahnya tidak bisa terlihat jelas. hmmm…. wangi sekali bau masakan ini. Wanita itu mendekat membawa beberapa piring hidangan dan meletakkannya di atas meja. Ugh, wajahnya juga tidak terlihat jelas. “Aku ingin melihat… aku ingin lihat… ibukah? ayahkah?”

“Hoi! Hoi! Culik! Ayo makan dulu. Apa kamu mau pilih mati saja?”, suara itu menariknya dari alam surga impiannya.

“Lapar… Ibu…”

“Makan dulu nih, hari ini gw kasih menu spesial buat lu! nih, nasi rendang telur. Habisin ya!”, ternyata sang teman yang menyadarkannya. “Gw keluar dulu bentar”.

Wangi sekali, ternyata wangi hidangan dalam surga tadi itu berasal dari nasi bungkus ini. Anak itu seperti kesetanan segera melahap habis tanpa bicara. Dia sudah tidak perduli lagi bagaimana dia bisa sampai kembali di gubuk itu. Rendang itu terasa asin, tapi anak itu sudah tidak perduli. Dia tidak sadar bawah air matanya yang menambahkan rasa asin dalam makanannya. Sang teman menatap iba dari luar. Tanpa sadar air matanya ikut mengalir. Betapa terkejutnya dia melihat temannya pingsan sambil meringkuk di atas trotoar saat dia kembali.

Malam itu mereka tidur lebih nyenyak dari malam-malam sebelumnya. Keesokan paginya, si culik lebih dulu bangun dan bergegas pergi. Tepat dipintu suara sang teman menahan langkahnya, “Mau ke mana lu?”

“Hidup…” Jawabnya dengan senyum hambar.

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Pemuda itu tergeletak di tengah jalan. Darah mengalir dari lubang di tubuhnya. Keramaian polisi di sekitarnya sudah tidak dapat lagi mengganggu ingatan lama yang tiba-tiba saja terlintas. Terlihat senyum hambar yang sama dengan belasan tahun lalu, saat mengayunkan langkah pertamanya mempertahankan hidup.

“Dudi culik namanya, dia preman pasar sini”. Salah seorang polisi mendekat dan memeriksa luka pada tubuhnya, “Sepertinya dia ditembak pelaku penculikan anak yang sedang kita kejar”, kemudian memeriksa denyut nadi pada tangannya. “Terlambat”, polisi itu melempar pandangan pada rekannya sambil menggelengkan kepala.

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