I haven’t made any survey nor having any real statistic report, but I believe that this is a question that tickles any parents in the whole world in all era. In the end, each parent will find their own answer and we can even see them as live examples all around us.
I don’t believe there is a right or wrong answer for this question. What’s work for a child might not work for another. So I’ll just share how I try to answer this question. I always try to put myself in somebody elses shoes before starting to judge them. So by instinct I would just do the same when I interact with my children.
I think you should know that I’m not an experienced parent. I currently only have a 2.5 years old boy and an upcoming new baby at the end of this year. But hey, you could have 20 children and still not doing it right every time. You can’t wait until you have lots of children and learn from each children for years, it would have been too late until you finally find your perfect answer. Well, I believe we already have the necessary experience. Don’t forget that we were once children (as a matter a fact we’re still are). We should use our own experience as a child. The key is not to copy it, but to learn from it. What was our parents method and how did we react to it.